chivalry vs. expectations
forgot about something...there was a rather heated debate the other day between my coworkers. we were talking about first dates and expectations. one guy does not believe in paying for a first date nor does he even believe in asking a girl out first. he said asking a girl out is expected of him so he doesn't. another girl and i said that a guy should ask a girl out because we think more traditionally. we also said that while we don't expect a guy to pay for the first date, we're surprised when he doesn't. the guys said that if a guy does pay for the first date then he will have certain expectations of the girl (now your mind can think in the gutter).
the thing is, the majority of guys/girls do not simply ask a person out on a "date" but to "hangout." unless it's clarified beforehand, one of the ways that a lot of girls figure out if it's a date, is if the guy pays for the dinner (or whatever it is they are doing).
ok... at first i was labeling it chivalry, that is, until a friend told me that chivalry goes back to the days of knights. knights do not, in fact, fit the modern day definition of chivalry because they just took what they want, raped, and pillaged... or something to that effect. i may change my terminology later but for now, i think everyone knows what i mean.
posted by Dana @ 1:30 PM
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i totally know what you mean. i'm pretty traditional too, when it comes to that kinda stuff.
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