lo and behold
a familiar topic... would ya guess what was on the front page of the oc register life section yesterday? "dating scene: does it matter who pays on a date these days? apparently most think the guy's still on the hook." it addresses the question of who decided that men should pay... a sociology professor at CSUF stated that it used to be that men made more money than women so they were expected to pay for everything. now that women are making as much or more than some men, the expectations for dating are somewhat confusing. the professor stated that "this predicament is a prime example of an anomie -when old societal rules and regulations have not fully expired and new ones are not fully accepted." (who knew what anomie meant? i felt dumb because i didn't... it means the absence of any kind of rule, law, principle or order.)he said...
~"i think the guy should pay about 75% of the time. the key, though, is that the girl at least makes a sincere attempt to offer to pay."
~"once we're boyfriend and girlfriend, I don't mind paying most of the time."
~"if a girl offers to pay on the first date, I think that's OK. But that never happens."
she said...
~"...after nine months of dating, he's getting too comfortable and isn't taking me out as much. At my birthday dinner... i had to pay for my own dinner."
~"i insist to share the cost but he says, 'the guy pays for his date.'"
~"i don't typically care who pays, but if i were to pay for the first date, there wouldn't be a second. if i were to go dutch and pay my share, then for me, that means i just want to be friends."
posted by Dana @ 7:36 AM
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You know, I tend to pay for my friends even if that's all we are. Am I sending off the wrong signals? I hope not.
my friends and i do that too but it's back and forth, not just one person paying all the time. ya know?
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